Break-ups give you a Loss of Self
Our relationship builds us, shapes us, sustain us and they can break us too. Break ups often results in loss of self, some part of you loses when you lose someone. All in all, break ups are bad but very often they aren’t as bad as they seem.
No one emerges from their dating life unscathed. When you’re in a relationship- you’re happy & vibrant person, very much in love, things are going perfectly. But when you break up- you’re alone, sad and disappointed. Things hurt but life thankfully happens on a continuum.
There are good things and there are bad things. So it goes the other way too. Sometimes your relationship isn’t that perfect and it could be improved. And that is when break ups are sometimes good for you, you become this free person and you don’t have this other person to weigh you down with negativity, nagging or asking you to change something about you.
Sometimes it is a great experience of getting out of that relationship. You’re back to the person that you want to be. Some break ups are worthy of celebration and I acknowledge that it sounds a little counter intuitive. But if you ask someone who got out a relationship long ago about how it impacted their life after the break up, you will find that these people will give you positive response most of the time.
Rediscovering of self is important after a break up. Do things that you’ve always wanted to do but couldn’t do it earlier, try new things, go out and explore if you want or just sit down reading books. Do things that make you happy. Treat damage and repair as an opportunity because break ups are something to take advantage of instead of conceal. Break up is going to leave you with cracks for sure but these cracks and imperfections are a source of strength and beauty as you are stronger than you know.